Arora,

So I have good reason to believe that this girl and I are right for eachother. But lately she’s been way too involved in school and work to establish a working relationship. I’ve passed up a few decent opportunities with other girls b/c it feels wrong with this whole situation still lingering. My question is do I keep passing up these girls which I would otherwise be attracted to while I wait for this “perfect girl” who’s been too busy for me?

La Jolla, CA

Answer:

Dude, if there’s anything I’ve learned from the dating scene, its never wait for someone that wont wait for you.

It seems that one (or both) of two things is the problem: your feelin her more than she’s feelin you, or she just doesnt want the same things you want. She also knows you’re not going anywhere, so she’s not worried (and why should she be, you pass up all the bootie opportunities…bitch!)

Solution: give her a reason to worry.

Dating is all about where the power is held - who’s got control. Right now she’s got it. She’s getting her work done (meaning she doesn’t day dream about you enough), she’s got you where she wants you, and you’re there when she wants you to be (your fault). You need grow a set and take control of the situation, homeboy.

Here’s what you do: Ask her to hang out. If she declines, go capitalize on opportunities!…bitch! Beautiful girls want to spend time with you and you’re going to wait for the one that doesn’t? A watched pot never boils, my friend. Go do your thing and get your mind off her. When she feels threatened, she’ll stop taking your for granted. At the same time, you’ll feel better knowing you didn’t miss out on anything. Who knows, you may even come across something better, so don’t burn your bridges. Remember that you’re NOT wrong for seeing other people because not only did you ask her first, but you’re NOT committed to her (her fault!). Now go remind her of that.