Arora,

How do I rekindle the love with my ex without being thrown into the friend zone? I’ve been told by others to give her space and let her come to me. It’s what I’m doing and its helping me move on. Suggestions please.

The end of Lonely Street

Answer:

In a way your boys are right, bro. You’re suppose to give her space. But more importantly give it to yourself.

She broke up with you. That means she has the upper hand (the one who calls the shots usually doesn’t need closure). You need to let yourself get over her - almost completely.

The last person she remembers is the guy she broke up with. When she sees you now she’s gotta see the guy she lost. Thus, you need to be smiling, confident, and full of life. And what’s the fastest way to get all three? Get LAID! Its the neosporin of the grieving process!

Go play the field bro, get back in the game! It’ll make you realize you don’t need to depend on your girl for comfort and pride - you can get it from yourself cuz you’re still the shit! (Start with busting out Right Said Fred while you shave, awww yeaaa)

You can’t let her see you gloomy as shit like the fat kid on prom night and expect her to run over to you with open legs–errr I mean arms. If she’s completely ignoring you, use that time to move forward. After a while when you can honestly tell yourself you got your game back, give her a call. Find out how she’s been and be sincere about it. Talk to her like you two never went out in the first place. It’ll trigger those old feelings in her brain which will not only comfort her, but temporarily side step you out of friend zone. It’s up to you to capitalize from there.